I DO… WE DO… THE KIDS DO TOO! ✨💍
by Steve Pritchard-Jones
❤️ Bonus Kids, Bonus Love! ❤️
A wedding is often described as two people coming together and saying, “I do.” But when children are involved, it can mean something even more special—a whole new family coming together and saying, “We do!” 👨👩👧👦
For blended families, the wedding day is not only about becoming husband and wife or life partners. It is the beginning of a new chapter for everyone—a family team built upon love, trust and togetherness. 🥰
Children and stepchildren might feel excited, proud and thrilled to be involved, but they may also feel nervous or uncertain about what the future will bring. Sometimes they may feel all of these emotions at once, and that is perfectly natural. 💭💕
One of the wonderful things about a celebrant-led wedding is the freedom to include children in ways that feel comfortable and meaningful to them. They could:
👩👦 Walk down the aisle with their parent
💍 Carry the rings
💐 Hold the bouquet
📖 Read a poem or special message
🕯️ Help light a unity candle
🌈 Take part in a coloured-sand ceremony
🎵 Choose a song or reading
✍️ Sign a family certificate
🤝 Join in with a family vow
📸 Take pride of place in the family photographs
Even the smallest role can help a child feel noticed, valued and included. Not every child will want to speak in front of the guests, so there should never be any pressure, the important thing is that they feel comfortable and part of the celebration. 😊
A family vow can be one of the most moving moments of the ceremony. The couple might promise to listen, support, encourage and care for the children as they create a loving home together. The children can then respond with one very special answer:
❤️ “We do!” ❤️
When children are thoughtfully included, the occasion becomes much more than a wedding. It becomes a celebration of belonging.
✨ You matter.
✨ You are part of this.
✨ We are building our future together.
Sometimes the most meaningful wedding promise is not simply: “I choose you.”
It is: “We choose one another and we are becoming a family.” 👨👩👧👦💖
If you are planning a wedding involving children or stepchildren, I would be delighted to help you create a personal ceremony in which everyone feels welcomed, valued and included.
Steve Pritchard-Jones
Celebrant
Top Note Ceremonies
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